“There was a time when my heart this hurt but my tears couldn’t flow.. like the ice touched the heart and all I could feel was shivering in pain but I couldn’t do a thing just accept and digest it well to keep me sane.”
Yup and that time was when my heart broke coz that person I loved dissapointed me. And I think I wouldn’t feel it again for another reason, but I was wrong.
Today (April 24th) small tweets and a headline from Dramabeans makes me feel sad as sad as that moment again, which I never imagined that I would feel this for such irrelevant news to my real life. But it happens.
Headline on Dramabeans that shakes my mind from a meeting and left me shock for couple minutes:
??? Hiks.. yup, apparently without realized it I am one of Jo In Sung fangirl had a heart break after read it.
When usually I got curious why there were so many fangirl-ing fandom cry or sad when their actor/ actress/ idol couple up with someone not as their imagine. And now, I finally understand why. So not gonna judge them but if they let their sadness into something destructive or put their negative energy to a open forum, that I can’t tolerate!
So first reaction reading the news, my jaw drop, and my whole mind felt like paralyzed for a moment. In denial of course when I’m quietly shipping for Jo In Sung – Song Hye Gyo to be a real couple. And the fact that I don’t know the actress his been dating, Kim Min Hee, aggravates the situation. Shock and sad! Like there was a piece in my heart that suddenly break into millions little pieces.
I can’t stay quiet even in a meeting (yup I was attending a meeting with 2 others company!!!!), I have to let it out or else I become moody for the whole meeting. I whatsapp my fellow That Winter partner in crimes and said out loud bout what I feel. This is the moment I realize that I need to go back to reality, to look for my own Man, to see a drama as entertainment purpose only, and stay away to get really attached to a drama/ actor/ actress or worse by shipping a couple. And this is when reality kicks, apparently I put myself to deep in kdramaland, have to loose up the tied.
Then, I check in to Soompi reading several thought and leave my mind for closing. After the meeting, on my way enjoying the traffic time of Jakarta inside a taxi, I put a lot of thought for what happens with me, the fangirl fandom, and the reality.
My Analyze after Reality Kicks
Is this wrong for an actor to hook up and has relationship with any female? Nope.
Is this wrong for an actor to date the girl that he likes? Nope.
Is this wrong for an actor to date any girl he likes? Nope.
Is it a must for an actor to date the girl that his fandom like? Nope if he loves him as an actor that we adore.
Do we have the right to judge the ugliest thing to a woman that already been chosen by someone that (before/still) we adore so much for his performance if we used to say that we love him? Will we be glad to hear that someone who used to support us then saying a bad thing about our couple when that someone doesn’t really know about our couple? If we think straight, then the answer will be no, rite? So it will be the same for that actor too.
Does he/she need our (fans) approval to date? Or do we have the right to choose who he dates? We are not his/her parents, nor his girlfriend, nor his friends, even more we ever met him in real life so who we are for him to need our approval. Fans? Yup, but then.. Does he need all his fans approval then? Aaahhhh he won’t marry for sure if it yes and will live pathetically as a loner.. So we have the right to choose who he dates? Aaaahhh we can imagine but we can’t force it, rite? Coz he is the one who live his life not us.. So please don’t be that mother in Secret Garden drama.
Conclusion, actor can date anyone he loves!
Can we said out loud our opinion regarding dating rumour? Of course we can, by not hurting others rite? Coz we love peace rite?
Are we not allowed to mad/ sad/ be disappointed toward dating rumour? Sure we’re allowed, it’s a natural emotion if we sad when what we’re hoping not come true. And that’s happen a lot in any matters in our life so don’t let it to be so long, take a small break and analyze it. Then move on to a happy path ^^
Jo In Sung and That Winter The Wind Blow (when we watch how compatible Oh Young and Oh Soo that we hope it was real) Case
As O2 couple shipper, I see why this news make some of us so disappointed and all I can conclude is that is all about the bad timing of this rumour news. And it is not Jo In Sung ssi or Kim Min Hee ssi false at all. They are not the one with the intention to blow up this news, the media did! Okay, it was my perception by reading the news. So when he didn’t deny it, I’m so proud of him, that means he responsible man who loves his woman, in my opinion. Can’t you imagine how you feel if you are his girlfriend and he deny your relationship. If it was me, I’m gonna be sad inside. So this one salute.
The Bad Timing! Yup the revelation timing is really really bad, since many of us still have TWTWB withdrawal syndrome or maybe still watching the drama. It should be revealed in maybe another 6 months when we already get over the hype of TWTWB. On that time, it won’t bothers so much. But again, this is not Jo In Sung’s false.
We are all the victims, Jo In Sung is the victim, TWTWB is the victim. I’m imagining that Jo In Sung ssi himself wouldn’t feel so happy about this news seeing how he loves his TWTWB crews and how he likes TWTWB itself. So would we, his fans will make it harder for him? Ask yourself, the answer might varies.
So when I thought more about the news and about the reaction about it. I understand the sadness, and to make it into a cheering up, supporting, self opinion, even funny opinion, I feel so glad. But to bash our actor or even his girlfriend that was away too much and cross the line.
We should imagine ourself if we were in her shoes, are we gonna be okay if people said you are not good enough to your partner, before bashing others.
Fiiiuuuuhhh, never thought I will write this much for something that I never imagine I will be sad about. But yeah.. I understand more the crying fandom over such news.. It’s okay to be not okay.. But remain yourself to keep stay in the track..
And for me, it’s time to go back to reality, I’m going down too far in the kdramaland to make me able to write a post like this.. Kekekekeke..